Ladies, this post is just for you. Sorry gentlemen, I can only speak from a woman’s perspective on this one... But let me know your thoughts…
This post is purely about standards – I have them, and I try (sometimes very hard and sometimes I slip into unintentional living) to uphold them. I find “lack of standards trend” concerning, like very concerning. I, at the present moment, have a 10-year-old daughter and a 4-year-old daughter. I want them to maintain high and realistic standards as it relates to how anyone treats them. Especially how they are treated in romantic and intimate relationships. What I have observed is the systematic devaluing of the standards we set for ourselves.
We can see this visible in our interpersonal relationships with other women. Then again, in how we hold men accountable to the way we are expected to be treated, loved, and honored. As women, sometimes, we do not leave a lot of room for us to remind men that we are far too good for this world. Unfortunately, we do not, sometimes, allow ourselves the space to have our partner wonder, “now that I am gone, how can you go on?”
I cannot help but wonder if this culture that we have created, put on a pedestal, perpetuated, and emulated is an unhealthy lifestyle for young women. (If you do not understand what I am talking about listen to music and look at social media.) I am sorry to say this (but not sorry), but not a single woman is worth being a side chick. Not a single one of use with worth the lack of commitment that a new style of relationship brings (if that’s your “thing” then go for it – but, love, you are worth so much more). Not a single one of us is the common B-word name we reference ourselves, and allow others to do the same.
Remember, you’re a rose in a concrete world.