Thursday, February 6, 2020

From One Woman To Another: Give 'Em the Why

Full disclosure, I am bad at this - just so not good at this... I have to be very honest with myself, I am. It just always assume people know what I know (and I know what people say happens when you assume… no need to go there) In short, my mind thinks at 100 miles/minute and my most significant issue with the “why” is that me, the person who is thinking through the argument/concept/idea/project fully “gets-it.” So if I get it, then everyone else surely must have been along on my thought journey to wisdom and understanding as well. This is my personal blind spot. As to keep in mind that just because this is an admitted and recognized blind spot, that I still do not fall subject to unconscious behavior. Honestly, many times I cannot see it until after it happens in reflection because this is that unconscious for me. The best way to mitigate an unconscious behavior to create a system or process that will allow for the outcome intended. The result, in this case, is going to be making sure I articulate they “why.”

What I have found works for me, when I can mitigate the threat, is to get a second opinion of an idea or concept before I pitch it to the broader team. This allows me to share information with someone who is not as close to it but can ask me all the questions for information that I am assuming my audience has. Many times, it is the “why.” I am learning the art of bringing people along on the journey. In order to gain influential leadership and bring people along on the journey with you, there is a need to understand the "why." The why are we are going on this journey. The why is the journey beneficial for me. The why would I spend my time on this. (Seeing how this understanding ties to a recent post of knowledge of self-determination theory? The need for Fairness and the appearance of transparency…) Advice, bring people along on the journey because real change never happened with just 1 person, and all the followers need to know, understand, and make their own the “why.”

For more like this check out the February Black History Post

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