If I could write myself a letter at 17 & 23 (ask me privately why I chose those years of my life...) this is what it would say to me, as an "adult." The focus of this letter is beauty. What is beauty anyway? Well according to Merriam-Webster "beauty" is…
1: the quality or aggregate of qualities in a person or thing that gives pleasure to the senses or pleasurably exalts the mind or spirit: loveliness
2: a particularly graceful, ornamental, or excellent quality
3: a brilliant, extreme, or egregious example or instance
I am writing you this letter as a 32-year-old woman, still learning about this thing called "beauty." Beauty was something that we really struggled with, and you were terrified of growing older and how people saw you. Girl! You are a mother and time has served you pretty well. Dang it! I wished we would have looked up the definition of beauty years ago. It's so simple, yet, for years, the operational definition you held was so outwardly focused you forget that grace was a part of the definition.
Let's face it, it is still an issue now, but people can and will be cruel. When it comes to something as tender thing as beauty, I wish adult me could hold the 17-year-old Tiffany. Tell her what she was, what she is, and what she will do. Maybe, in may ways I did, and that’s how we got here today.
"Young girl, don't cry. I'll be right here when your world starts to fall. Young girl, it's alright - Your tears will dry, you'll soon be free to fly."
For far too long, your beauty was determined by the way you were perceived by others, with little to no regard for the way you perceived yourself. Let me say that again, YOUR beauty was determined by how others assessed you. That is a tough way to live, and rather unfortunate. But, we lived that way for a long time, yet, because of the trials we got the joys of living and learning.
You are everything you have grown to be and more. Keep on loving you and those 2 girls. Cause I love you, and think you beyond beautiful in your way, the way you should be, just where you should be, just how you should be.
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