We all have a story of life, some people are the protagonist and others, well, the antagonist. Some people are the knights in shiny armor and some are a princess longing for love. But at the most basic level in the stories of our life, some people play the hero and others the villain. But I can't help but wonder, what happens when you are the unintentional villain in someone else's life story?
I had an uncomfortable and a bit of a saddening moment of clarity and I couldn't help but wonder (Carrie Bradshaw, but very seriously) if in the lives of others that I have come in contact with - was I a villain or a hero in their life story.
I recently found out, in full disclosure that in at least one person’s life story, I definitely was a villain. I never met to hurt anyone or cause anyone any level of hurt or pain - for that I provide the most sincere apology. It’s no consolation, But it happens. (My goal in life is to leave every place I go better than it was before I got there - being a villain doesn't align well to that purpose) We all sometimes hurt others, whether it be intentional or unintentional. We all at times are not kind for one reason or another. However, when I am completely honest with myself, it’s hurt to be cast as a villain in someone's story of life. I wish I had the courage to tell the story but I don’t have it right now.
“Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.”
The biggest comprehensive hurdle with others life story is the divine plan that I do not see or understand. The plan that pulls all things together in time the way that they should be. I have clarity now to know and understand that acceptance is the only way to move forward. Because that is what life is truly about, learning the lessons and applying them to be a better person. It is very hard to accept what you cannot control - someone's life story. However, keep in mind that there are people in your life story that are both heroes and villains, and we have to accept that although we are all called to be kind to one another, we will sometimes play the role of the villain.