Thursday, September 26, 2019

Are You A Hero or Villain? I Can't Help But Wonder


We all have a story of life, some people are the protagonist and others, well, the antagonist. Some people are the knights in shiny armor and some are a princess longing for love. But at the most basic level in the stories of our life, some people play the hero and others the villain. But I can't help but wonder, what happens when you are the unintentional villain in someone else's life story?

I had an uncomfortable and a bit of a saddening moment of clarity and I couldn't help but wonder (Carrie Bradshaw, but very seriously) if in the lives of others that I have come in contact with - was I a villain or a hero in their life story.

I recently found out, in full disclosure that in at least one person’s life story, I definitely was a villain. I never met to hurt anyone or cause anyone any level of hurt or pain - for that I provide the most sincere apology.  It’s no consolation, But it happens.  (My goal in life is to leave every place I go better than it was before I got there - being a villain doesn't align well to that purposeWe all sometimes hurt others, whether it be intentional or unintentional. We all at times are not kind for one reason or another. However, when I am completely honest with myself, it’s hurt to be cast as a villain in someone's story of life. I wish I had the courage to tell the story but I don’t have it right now. 
“Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.”
Proverbs 3:5-6
The biggest comprehensive hurdle with others life story is the divine plan that I do not see or understand. The plan that pulls all things together in time the way that they should be. I have clarity now to know and understand that acceptance is the only way to move forward. Because that is what life is truly about, learning the lessons and applying them to be a better person. It is very hard to accept what you cannot control - someone's life story. However, keep in mind that there are people in your life story that are both heroes and villains, and we have to accept that although we are all called to be kind to one another, we will sometimes play the role of the villain. 

Tuesday, August 27, 2019

Re-re-revisiting My Personal Mission Statement - Again, Again…

My very first blog post was from May 10, 2013. In that post, I wrote about my Personal Mission Statement 2012. I only found it fitting to revisit the Mission Statement two & a half years later and see if anything had changed, Revisiting My Personal Mission Statement (November 12, 2015). Then I experienced more of this thing called like, and you guessed it, I decided to Re-Revisit Personal Mission Statement (August 2017). So... guess what?! Its Personal Mission Statement Time! I have found that when I feel like I am missing purpose or had a major shift in life, this statement needs to be re-visit (not necessarily re-done but re-understood) - again, approximately 2 years later.  There is a bit of a difference this time; I have introduced a Vision Statement to the equation. The Vision Statement is my ultimate life goal, what am I working towards. The Mission Statement is how I plan to achieve the Vision. 


Here were a few questions that I have kept in mind as I reviewed the statement:
   1.      Was it adequately written to the point where it would not need much future editing? Yes.
   2.      Did I hold myself accountable to the statement in which I produced? Yes.
   3.      Was the statement an accurate reflection of my core personal values? Yes.

   4.      Has the statement stood the test of time (well, 2.5 years)? Yes

The Vision
Leading a Grace-filled life of learning, intentionality, and purpose. 

The Mission
Mission Statement 2012
To be a catalyst of change: to promote, to inquire, and to understand change while intentionally maintaining a genuine concern for people. Meaningfully placing myself in positions to learn, to lead, and grow professionally with integrity and excellence.
  • Seek ways to make a difference (professionally and personally)
  • Continually expand my understanding of people as invaluable assets to an organization

Updated Mission Statement 2015
To be a catalyst of change: to promote, to inquire, and to understand change while intentionally maintaining a genuine concern for people. Meaningfully placing myself in positions to learn, to lead, and grow professionally with integrity and excellence.
  • Seek ways to make a difference (professionally and personally)
  • Continually expand my understanding and connection of people as invaluable assets to an organization
  • Promote the better and unique understanding of people as invaluable assets to an organization

Up-Updated Mission Statement 2017
To be a catalyst of change: to promote, to inquire, to thrive, and to understand change while intentionally maintaining a genuine concern for people. Meaningfully placing myself in positions to learn, to lead, and to grow personally & professionally with integrity and excellence.
  • Seek to be understood as to understand
  • Expand my knowledge of people as an invaluable asset to the organization
  • Promote strong organizational health

Up-Up-Updated Mission Statement 2019

To be a catalyst of change: to promote, to inquire, to thrive, and to understand change while intentionally maintaining a genuine concern for people. Meaningfully placing myself in positions to learn, to lead, and to grow personally & professionally with grace, integrity, and excellence.
  • Seek to be understood as to understand
  • To maintain a strong sense of purpose and eunoia
  • Expand my wisdom and knowledge of people as an invaluable asset to the organization
  • Promote strong organizational health


You can see the progression and scope of my world as I have developed and evolved over the course of the past 7+ years, but also, see how much of me has remained anchored in my foundation.

Saturday, August 17, 2019

Thoughts to My Past: Decisions

If I could write myself a letter at 17 & 23 (ask me privately why I chose those years of my life...) this is what it would say to me, as an "adult." The focus of this letter is decisions, the process of moving in spite of fear to conquer failure. Sometimes we don’t make the best ones but the best part is we learn (sometimes… I think…I think we sometimes learn).

Tiffany,

I am writing you this letter as a 32-year-old woman, who still has to make decisions. I am certain that nowhere in your wildest dreams did you ever think that you would be capable of making the decisions that you have made. Moving where you have moved. Going where you have gone. Some horrible, but taught you the most. Some amazing, and changed your life in ways you are still seeing (there is one in particular that fills your heart every time you think about it). Some that required nothing more of you than to be still and wait.

We have had to accept it as a truth that decision making never gets any easier. And not to sound terribly cliché BUT, they only get more serious, impactful, and more difficult. But also, the best decision you can make is to do nothing in the immediate moment. Yes! That is a decision, it is a choice. 

Something else we have managed to get out of our decision-making abilities is that you cannot allow your emotions to paralyze you in fear of decision making. Or allow yourself to make a decision in a highly illogical and emotional state. It seems as though the decisions that used to be difficult become increasingly easier, but the impact of those decisions is greater. The stakes are so much higher because your decisions are not made in a vacuum. They greatly impact the lives of all of those around you. 

  1. Like 5:16: Tune Out Distractions
  2. Proverbs 19:20: Seek Godly Advice
  3. James 4:1: Narrow Down Your Choices
  4. James 1:22: Do Something - Even If It Is To Be Still
  5. Psalms 28:7: Give Thanks For Answers

Past Letters to Me:

Upcoming Letters to Me:
  • Pain
  • Fear
  • Faith
  • Love