Monday, April 27, 2020

Why Do I Write?

I recently had someone ask me why I write? Why do I write this blog, and have been for about 7 years? Why do all of this work, but I do not get paid for it? Well, my answer is to follow. See, I was on Instagram a couple of weeks ago, and I follow a group called the ChristianGirlBlog. They posted the following bible verse, and at that moment, I had a spark of insight. 

"In the same way, let your light shine before others, so that they may see your good works and give glory to your Father in heaven."
Matthew 5:16

As the ChristianGirlBlogs paraphrases this statement, "Be generous with your loves. By opening up to others, you'll prompt people to open up with God, this generous Father in heaven." Amazing! It really sums up why I write, how I write, and what I write. I wrote a blog a few years ago based on the song Little Drummer Boy and Dr. Martin Luther King's Speech - Street Sweeper. Now I will just disclose my gift is not necessarily the writing. By this, I mean the blog and the actual writing is not my gift per se. But instead, the thought process behind everything that I eventually put on "paper." It's not just thinking but tying concepts together to try to make more sense of this thing called life. You know it's the whole concept of all things working together for good. (*Smiles*

I guess the better question is, "why do I CONTINUE to write?" Well, the above is the answer to why. Because writing forces me to keep thinking and tying things together. Because when I think I gain clarity, understanding, and peace. Because when I put it out there for the world, I can only hope someone else gains more clarity, understanding, and peace. So here is it letting your light shine - so someone else's light can shine as well.

Monday, April 20, 2020

A Rose In A Concrete World

Ladies, this post is just for you. Sorry gentlemen, I can only speak from a woman’s perspective on this one... But let me know your thoughts…

This post is purely about standards – I have them, and I try (sometimes very hard and sometimes I slip into unintentional living) to uphold them. I find “lack of standards trend” concerning, like very concerning. I, at the present moment, have a 10-year-old daughter and a 4-year-old daughter. I want them to maintain high and realistic standards as it relates to how anyone treats them. Especially how they are treated in romantic and intimate relationships. What I have observed is the systematic devaluing of the standards we set for ourselves.

We can see this visible in our interpersonal relationships with other women. Then again, in how we hold men accountable to the way we are expected to be treated, loved, and honored. As women, sometimes, we do not leave a lot of room for us to remind men that we are far too good for this world. Unfortunately, we do not, sometimes, allow ourselves the space to have our partner wonder, “now that I am gone, how can you go on?”

I cannot help but wonder if this culture that we have created, put on a pedestal, perpetuated, and emulated is an unhealthy lifestyle for young women. (If you do not understand what I am talking about listen to music and look at social media.) I am sorry to say this (but not sorry), but not a single woman is worth being a side chick. Not a single one of use with worth the lack of commitment that a new style of relationship brings (if that’s your “thing” then go for it – but, love, you are worth so much more). Not a single one of us is the common B-word name we reference ourselves, and allow others to do the same.

Remember, you’re a rose in a concrete world. 

Monday, April 13, 2020

Organized to the Max - My Task Organization System

Given everything that is going on, I have had some emailed questions on how I stay organized. Well, my trick… OneNote. Now, I want to be sure I preface this post, this process is something I have fine-tuned and continue to do such for over 3 years now. I have found what works well for me, and a digital format does because this is on my laptop, iPhone, and iPad. I have been using this system for about a solid 3-4 years now. My life (figurative, maybe not so much - but a lot of my life is on this platform, or whatever you call it. I am not a tech wizard, but I am an OneNote wizard) is on OneNote. Here is what I keep on OneNote:
  1. Tasks & SMART Goals
  2. Duvet To Desk Notes (Drafts, Thoughts, Completed/Posted Blogs)
  3. A notebook from my current and previous career roles
  4. HR Theory & Practice Information
  5. Faith and Person Development

The fantastic thing is OneNote is attached to my safari browser, and I can immediately save articles with the link and information right into OneNote. But the best part is due to the set up that I have, I can look back and see progress. Do I keep a paper planner? Yes, I do - I LOVE my paper planner. But that is my journal and my physical, creative outlet. I doodle, letter, write my thoughts, and create my inspiration in my paper planner -along with weekly and long term goal setting and planning. But this beast, I mean OneNote, is really about keeping it all straight and knowing what needs to be done next. But what has already been done.

The most significant section of this notebook is the "Task-SMART Goals" section. I have been able to year over a year see what I have accomplished goal wise and task wise. The best part about this method for me, it is an intentional glimpse into the way my mind processes information and gets things done. The task pages are broken down by week, and I write down every Monday morning everything I hope to get done. (Yes, I will spend about 30 minutes every day figuring out everything that needs to be done) I start every day with this section of my notebook. It allows me to see what I plan or need to achieve on that day and what is coming. 
This 30 minutes at the beginning of every day, many times is the brightest part of my day but also allows me to prioritize my time. If I am unable to get something done by the end of the week, I just cut and paste it into the upcoming week. I have actually now found myself, over the past 6-8 months, adding a section on Home and Blog. This is information and task related to the house and things that need (or that I really want to get done) to be accomplished at home. The blog section is really associated with all the information that I need to do related to my blog (which I appreciate you reading now!). This could be updating a drafted post, editing the post for grammar (which I am really working on - you know really stepping my game up) and content, and ensuring I update all social media with the newest post (InstagramFacebookLinkedIn, and Pinterest)

This process may seem like a lot, but as I have grown and tried to focus more on how I spend my time, this is the visualization of my time. This allows me to take time to know and understand what is coming, but what I have done. This will enable me to maintain the mindset of progress over perfect because every week, there are tasks that get "cut and pasted" because sometimes I have to choose what I will and will not do. Or better phrased, what I pick and choose not to do because I want to spend my time elsewhere.